tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post3237804888234899209..comments2023-10-26T11:37:23.758-04:00Comments on Field Lines: An Absurd Rant, but I Gotta Get it OutNataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-68903414990657315522007-06-26T15:16:00.000-04:002007-06-26T15:16:00.000-04:00mom-in-law-Good idea! Although in the middle of s...mom-in-law-<BR/>Good idea! Although in the middle of summer that might not stop anyone- it may actually attract more...<BR/><BR/>scott-<BR/>Thanks. The other "bowl vs ground" issue I forgot to mention is that when I feed on the ground, I spread the food out like a trough so that as many kitties can eat as possible. With the bowls, only as many kitties as bowls can eat at once.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-92067480127751808112007-06-26T13:17:00.000-04:002007-06-26T13:17:00.000-04:00I was wondering what Mr. Schprock would say about ...I was wondering what Mr. Schprock would say about it, and he didn't disappoint. I think your friend is dead wrong to make any issues; you are both helping the cats, and it's true that they don't give two shits if it's in a bowl or on the ground. You both are good people, but she just has people problems.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13323167263283798566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-43083836067712974732007-06-26T09:39:00.000-04:002007-06-26T09:39:00.000-04:00Remember the squirt gun we used to chase away the ...Remember the squirt gun we used to chase away the cats that were already spayed when we were trapping? Maybe you need me down there with a super soaker to use on butt-in-ski crazy cat ladyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-44742119119109478382007-06-25T17:27:00.000-04:002007-06-25T17:27:00.000-04:00mr s-Due to the whole lack of opposable thumb issu...mr s-<BR/>Due to the whole lack of opposable thumb issue, teaching the kitties to grow their own food is a bit of a challenge. The fertilizing part is about all they're capable of. They do that well. Thanks for the imagery though! LOL<BR/><BR/>myutopia-<BR/>If you have managed this, I commend you! I apparently have quite a ways to go...<BR/><BR/>toni-<BR/>Thanks for the compliment. To be modest, we don't really have property (in an apartment) so it's really not very time consuming. Just a daily commitment and sometimes a pain in the neck (that's the people though, not really the kitties *wink*).Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-83859815103583193872007-06-25T15:41:00.000-04:002007-06-25T15:41:00.000-04:00I think you and Dean are doing a wonderful job. I...I think you and Dean are doing a wonderful job. I don't care for anything outside the kids, dogs, fish, trees and plants on our proerty and that just about drives me to the edge of exhaustion. looking out for the feral cats and trying to control the population is a wonderful thing. Your friend sounds like a bit of a crazy. Let her go gently and firmly :)Toni Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08348843511453338339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-10138270720251702242007-06-25T15:00:00.000-04:002007-06-25T15:00:00.000-04:00Learning the lesson of assertiveness and not alway...Learning the lesson of assertiveness and not always believing everything people say about you is one that is very long to achieve!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07149003661590866046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-8819394867882500292007-06-25T14:23:00.000-04:002007-06-25T14:23:00.000-04:00I think Dean should teach the kitties how to provi...I think Dean should teach the kitties how to provide for themselves, then everything becomes a non-issue. You know the old saying: "Give a cat a bowl of Meow Mix, you've fed him for one day; teach a cat how to plow, irrigate, fertilize and seed, and you've fed him for life."mr. schprockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16216294034597931274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-32200847004820325712007-06-25T12:49:00.000-04:002007-06-25T12:49:00.000-04:00Opps wrong crazy lady. hehehe :)Opps wrong crazy lady. hehehe :)Runner Girl FLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05755283547202964546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-66738720835280951632007-06-25T11:43:00.000-04:002007-06-25T11:43:00.000-04:00lefty-Haha! Love the bracelet idea. I will remem...lefty-<BR/>Haha! Love the bracelet idea. I will remember it whenever I think I should say something. That doesn't mean I always will though. The other issue is the toll it takes on my nerves to be so assertive. I'm sort of a mess that way. It has taken years of practice to begin to undo my "Minnesota nice" upbringing. I'm already better than I was five years ago!<BR/><BR/>mom-<BR/>Thanks. I didn't expect to see you comment after you've been hearing about this for a week now. Ack.<BR/><BR/>fermi-<BR/>Yes, it is all about what's best for the kitties. My first instinct was to just tell her to leave us all alone. But if she's feeding, it's ridiculous for me to stop her, I'd be taking food from my cats regardless of if they need it or not. Their happiness is more important than spite. I could give you countless stories of the "my way is the only acceptable way to do things" mentality but I'm not here to bash her, just to express my own frustrations. It has taken two years of feeding feral cats to conclude that "her way" is overkill.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-36896809269822335302007-06-24T23:14:00.000-04:002007-06-24T23:14:00.000-04:00I would be irked at friend #1 also. I don't know ...I would be irked at friend #1 also. I don't know what the right thing to do is. I understand you want the best for the kitties and that is the bottom line. Tough call. She shouldn't be down on Dean, though. That just ain't right. She seems to be the type that thinks if you don't do something <I>exactly</I> the way she would do it, then you are doing it wrong. I hate it when people are that way.fermicathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06912496005011895707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-40040189233404691082007-06-24T21:41:00.000-04:002007-06-24T21:41:00.000-04:00let's not forget that you and dean are doing a "GO...let's not forget that you and dean are doing a "GOOD THING" and not something you should feel guilty about or have to give a second thought about, shame on her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-23332447894925740752007-06-24T14:52:00.000-04:002007-06-24T14:52:00.000-04:00I'll get some rubber bracelets made, with WWLGD pr...I'll get some rubber bracelets made, with WWLGD printed on them. Would that help you? Or maybe you'll just think of that the next time you feel uncomfortable with a situation and you'll make your voice heard first. As soon as your toes feel stepped on, as soon as your gut doesn't sit right, put words to feelings and present them to the included parties in a respectful way. You'll gain a lot of respect from the healthy people and a lot of breathing room from the crazies who will think that YOU are crazy. <BR/><BR/>And, if she questions Dean's methods/commitment again, remind her that he is your husband and that you trust him and that she needs to either just step in and do something to help or fix whatever it is that she doesn't like, or keep her yap shut. Those are her options. <BR/><BR/>Just be nice about it. I have this sweet and professional voice that I use when I'm angry with people and man, do I get my way a lot when I use that voice. I say the exact same words, just in a really nice way, and all of a sudden, people are doing what I want.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-54515829718104158302007-06-24T10:29:00.000-04:002007-06-24T10:29:00.000-04:00jackie-What I told her was to trust Dean a little ...jackie-<BR/>What I told her was to trust Dean a little bit more and spend her time worrying over her kitties. I don't want to tell her to step back all the way because she will likely throw in my face the kitten she rescued. I'm grateful she's helping the little guy, but it's a tricky situation.<BR/><BR/>runnergirl-<BR/><BR/><I>She also didn't trust you to give you back fixed kitties at first.</I><BR/><BR/>That was friend #2. And in retrospect I don't think that was a trust thing. I think she genuinely wants to help. <BR/><BR/>As far as burning bridges, I'm worried I'm dangerously close. But at the end of the day she would do anything for anybody's kitties and if I needed her help she'd do it.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-11288804582357387872007-06-24T09:36:00.000-04:002007-06-24T09:36:00.000-04:00Isn't it friend #1 who can't be bothered to pick u...Isn't it friend #1 who can't be bothered to pick up stuff that was left outside your door so I had to take it back in? And the whole I can't do it...ok I can! She also didn't trust you to give you back fixed kitties at first. She is just weird and controlling!! Don't burn your bridges but I wouldn't worry about her.<BR/><BR/>As long as you think she's weird and excessive you aren't a crazy cat lady...I think. ;)Runner Girl FLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05755283547202964546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-22178018750894852642007-06-24T02:31:00.000-04:002007-06-24T02:31:00.000-04:00Oh my. I hate it when you ask someone for a favor,...Oh my. <BR/><BR/>I hate it when you ask someone for a favor, or they offer to help, and then they take the situation and make it theirs. I mean, if this was her coloney to start with, then yes, I could understand the demands, however, since she is looking after YOUR cats, shouldn't she just be happily doing what YOU ask her to do? And if she can't do that, then BACK THE HELL OFF! (or use which ever words you prefer). <BR/><BR/>I think your rant is completley warented, and I don't think it would be wrong of you to tell her, "Thanks for your help, but there are now too many people involved with the cats, and could you please step back a little (or a lot, or all the way) and let Dean handle it from here on out"<BR/><BR/>grrrrJackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14698364720372038332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-21293666494676055932007-06-23T23:39:00.000-04:002007-06-23T23:39:00.000-04:00Next time, nip this in the bud before you get all ...<I>Next time, nip this in the bud before you get all worked up.</I><BR/><BR/>This seems to always be my problem. I give the nutty people the benefit of the doubt until things get ugly. Could you please give me some of your feistiness? I could use it.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-81952029287122024642007-06-23T13:58:00.000-04:002007-06-23T13:58:00.000-04:00I hate when people are passive-aggressive. Next t...I <I>hate</I> when people are passive-aggressive. Next time, nip this in the bud before you get all worked up. Man, I want to smack this lady for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com