tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post8414225918152889415..comments2023-10-26T11:37:23.758-04:00Comments on Field Lines: FloodgatesNataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-18711936146548413522007-06-04T21:21:00.000-04:002007-06-04T21:21:00.000-04:00Thanks to all of you who shared your thoughts "on"...Thanks to all of you who shared your thoughts "on" and "off" the record. All of you make good points, and some I think I need to clarify.<BR/><BR/>What's emerging from this situation which I didn't articulate in the best of ways, is that we'll likely have to make a huge choice. And that essentially means "settling" in one form or another. Yes, I may not have the job I always dreamed of if I end up coming back to this company. However, I'm not at all guaranteed that such a job exists (unless of course I decide to simply not graduate and give Dr. Hari an ulcer :P). <BR/><BR/>I know that money isn't everything, but let me be frank. If I can't do exactly what I want to do, doesn't it make sense to take money into account when choosing between jobs that aren't "dream jobs"? Won't it be easier to work at a job I just tolerate if I know we can still take Spring Training trips and do Spay Days, and see family whenever we want? The alternative is work at a job I just tolerate and struggle to live the life I want.<BR/><BR/>The other point I want to make, and one that I didn't bring up before, is that doing magnetism was just settling to me when I started out. I don't have time to go into details, but my first love (and one of my bachelor's degrees) was astronomy. I see didn't a whole lot of opportunities there for someone who wanted a family and a "normal" life and I gave those up because I wanted an easier life for Dean and I as a couple (as well as taking heavily into account the economic climate immediately following the 9/11 attacks). So I tried applied physics, got into magnetism and I think I love it more than I ever loved astronomy. So you never know.<BR/><BR/>Lastly, I tend to agree with you, minnesotablue. But I think the converse can also be true- a happy home life can make work better too. I can't tell you how much I wish Dean was here for me to see everyday after work. That could make a world of difference.<BR/><BR/>So in summary, thanks for all your thoughts. I'm feeling more optimistic this week than last. It hasn't changed much in the way I feel at my cubicle of dreariness and despair, but it gives me hope for the future.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05344778775085687558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-11174190741192136402007-06-04T09:40:00.000-04:002007-06-04T09:40:00.000-04:00AS all have said, it is a difficult situation. Let...AS all have said, it is a difficult situation. Let me just share my own perspective. I know that had I not been content in mine, it would have affected all other areas of my life. Happiness in a job tends to spill over into all other areas of your life. Imagine getting up in the morning and finding no joy in the prospect of another day. Job fullfillment for me has always been the key to my happiness in all areas of my lifeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-64409921187656298012007-06-01T16:06:00.000-04:002007-06-01T16:06:00.000-04:00You will ultimately have to decide what is most im...You will ultimately have to decide what is most important to you. We could all give an opinion of what we would do in your shoes, but none of us would have exactly the same perspective or circumstances as you. I don't envy your decision-making process. But I think e.b. is right - we all have to go through it at some point.fermicathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06912496005011895707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-17418068297229682752007-06-01T14:35:00.000-04:002007-06-01T14:35:00.000-04:00You need to live and work wherever you are happy....You need to live and work wherever you are happy. Life is too short to "settle". It is nice to have freinds and family close but we will visit and be there for you wherever you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13911787.post-21021285410000516752007-05-31T14:36:00.000-04:002007-05-31T14:36:00.000-04:00I have to think we all struggle with a variation o...I have to think we all struggle with a variation on this. Especially those with advanced degrees where years were spent prepping for that one job. From my experience - you have to do what you want and not just what feels like good pay. Scenario C scares me for you. I don't know if your feelings about the job are ever going to get any better - from my perspective they won't. Which is why you have to do what you actually want. And those dreams of houses and families will come true also.annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15439772399487069107noreply@blogger.com